Organizing time for your friends.

Yesterday I had a real good catch up with some friends I have known since I was a young child and we’ve all grown up together, my friends mum and my mum and my mums friends daughter I grew up together. We always would hang out and meet as kids, and even went on holidays together when we were younger. However as time moved on and we started having our own lives we stopped seeing each other as much, as life has it, but we always make sure we meet at least once a year if possible, and this inspired me to write this blog.

 

Sometimes we get so caught up with our daily routines, going to work, taking the kids to school, picking up shopping, meeting the better half and then when we get home we start to cook dinner and clean, along with other chores in the home; that we sometimes can forget our friends, and before you know it feels so long since you last contacted them or saw them, that it would feel strange just calling them out of the blue.

Catching up with friends even if it is once or twice a year or every few months, is healthy because you are seeing someone different and it is great to have a catch up once in a while, what they’ve been up to and what they’re doing with themselves now, and then what you’ve been doing.

My friends for a long time were my survival when things at home were tough, and I couldn’t have got through those times without them, and so it is important to me that I stay in touch with them.

So what I tend to do when it comes to meeting friends is I always pre-arrange a day to meet up, and stick to that day, if I know I am definitely going to be free on that day. Sometimes you may need to cancel if something else crops us (see my previous blog on what to do is something crops up) http://organize4thebetter.blogspot.co.uk/2013/10/something-that-crops-up.html; Or my friends may cancel as one has a little boy and sometimes if he has had a bad night then she will say sorry but not able to make it, but then we arrange another set day, and we always know we will meet up at some point, and don’t leave it for too long.

Making space to meet up with friends can be hard but even if it is for an hour having a coffee then that is still making time. Never try to arrange too much if it going to be impossible, but remember that making time for friends gives you some me time and them time aswell, as it is a release sometimes to chat with friends about the goings on in your life, instead of seeing the same person every day or the same four walls, so it is important that friends are not forgotten and will be there for you, if you are there for them.

Send them a text now again just to check how they are, and let them know you’re ok and that you are thinking of them and you will meet up with them soon. When you say that do so and say to them, let me know when you are free so we can meet, and that is opening that next meeting straight away, and if they don't respond don't hassle them but send another text a couple of week or month check your diary select a date or weekend your free and ask are you free on such and such a weekend? Would you like to meet and catch up then? Once that is done they will respond if they are good friends and will either say no or yes, if they can't then check your diary and suggest another weekend, and comprise on a date that suits you all.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X