Dealing With Avoidance

I think I have blogged this before, but it feels like it's a regular occurrence when I know that it will get done just not now. At the moment I am focusing on mainly getting my son settled now he is back to going to school and is an adjustment and some things I have to accept will have to be on hold. 

I love a list and it is good when things are ticked off but I have come to realise that it doesn't always have to be on a list. I do plan but often it can make me rebel. So now I use lists as a guidance and if I decide to do something else then so be it. 

As long as my son is ready for school then that is my focus at the moment. A plan is there to make space for things not listed, as there are items sometimes that take over. Like if Henry becomes unwell or has an event at school and been moving. This is a transition and so if something is causing you to be anxious then what would make it easier? Address your avoidance. Who can help you with it? 

I like to spend at least 10 minutes tidying and putting things away and when I got upstairs take something with me and I love pottering around the home and helps me take time off my laptop or go or a walk. Going shopping can help with fitting in exercise. Check out this blog: Get Active Get Fit : Shopping can have its benefits when staying Active

I am putting a declutter vlog together as I am altering my sons bedroom and my room in Epsom and I planned to do some today but as soon as a I do anything like that my son wants me and not in school today as he is doing a transition period as its his first week going to school again and so be back doing it tomorrow and today my mum was putting things away in the summer house we have and my needed new trainers and my husband wanted to do a dummy run to my sons school as the last two days it was my mum and step dad and so tomorrow me and his dad will be taking him and then next week, my son will going to school by taxi.

So in my journal I write what is my focus and what is worrying me and do it every morning now and helps to lower my apprehension and anxiousness. 

I'd recommend that. What one thing could you do, to stop avoidance and go through the weeks of the month and go through dates you already know you have set aside. Like a school visit. My son has world book day so need to find a costume and is going to be horrid henry. 

We aren't meant to to do everything. My husband will be doing dinner tonight and cooks on Sundays. So create a Rota and schedule and we just plan as we go, but if that doesn't suit you them do what works for you. 

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X 

I finally Cleared out my handbag

Why has it taken so long? Because I hold my hands up because of how long it would take and worried I'd get rid of something important. 

Did I though? No. 

My New Handbag 

I have other bags to go through and spent some time as I have gone upstairs clear some bits and doing some as I go, so going to go through one bag at a time. We are moving from Wimbledon, because my Mum and Step dad have moved to a new home where I will be still spending time, but not have to pack every week and because of the move we have had to sort a lot out. 

I am putting together some items for the charity shop or may sell, but it is working out what is the best for those items and skincare that has not been opened. I love a gift set because I like the lotions and some items I can give as gifts or donate or sell. I may give some items to my nieces.

When sorting out my bag I found a broken pair of sunglasses and receipts. How many can nod, who also keep a lot of receipts? I found some loose change. Some cream that lost a lid and tablets I take as some of the bottles of the pills have lost their lids and lipsticks and so it was good to have completed this dreaded task. 

I know Kon Marie says you should do it everyday but for me, just unrealistic, but going to see what I can do about receipts. If you have any tips please feel free to share. You can leave a comment in the box below. 

It is good to have a bag and I feel lost if I don't, so my a goal is to take better care even though I used it a lot and was a while, until I had to sort it out and it has been through many weathers and so it is time to use a new one and others that I have. 

I have my sons old bag to go through and donate as this as it is in good condition and sometimes it is good for items to go to a new home and I am a lot more vigilant in letting things go because of landfill and so I am becoming less wasteful. 

I ask myself "What use does this item have that I need?" So I am going to go through my bags and if they would be good for someone else, then it may be gifted, if it is in a good state wonder "Could it be recycled?" 

I love donating, recycle and I love to use some bits like labels and different type of paper to journal. I find it so good for my mental health and so going to sort more out and then I have clothes to be bought over. I may have to really decide on them because of space so lets see if I am strong enough to have less when it comes to clothes because I know it will be impossible to have them all even though I had done that but still got lots. 

Wish me luck and more blogs to come. 

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X